We know that life – and business – are a process. We may not like it, but it’s simply the way it is. One definition found in Dictionary.com defines process as: “[ I’d say the foregoing pretty much sums it up.
So when we accept that life and business are a process – then how do we make the process – a series of progressive, interdependent steps, continuous action and operation, get us from where we are to where we want to go? From point A to point B?
PRIORITIES – that’s how! Again, the online dictionary defines priorities as follows: “
In other words, their priority list will include contingency actions in the event of. . .
Side Note: I am not an expert in prioritizing. Not by a long shot; but I do know that it’s the nuts/bolts of going from dreams to reality of said dreams without getting indefinitely sidetracked or totally off the beaten track!
Let me assume we all accept the fact that the reason for process and priority is to arrive at our purpose. The purpose for engaging in process and setting priorities required by that process is not an end in itself. It has a definite, distinct and identifiable outcome we call “my purpose” – “my dream“, or my favorite definition – “my destiny“!
So, again assuming we have all agreed to this point – why do so many women fall off the trail at some point in the ‘process’? How is it we miss the boat and fail to arrive at the next point of embarkation? What deters us. Worse yet – what STOPS us?!
Let me posit a thought or two which supersede the assumption that women play dual life roles maintaining home, family – and a business (or professional career). That’s a given! But it ought never become an excuse for not engaging the process, taking priority action steps and arriving at the purpose for doing so!
1. We let emotion drive the engine of life. Not in every situation – but in many that are too important to let emotions cloud mental clarity. And steel-plated resolve. Our natural inclinations to tenderheartedness, loving support and care are wonderful – in their place. But they are not required in every instance; nor should they be the driving force that underpins our pathway to success.
Emotions will side track us every time unless we put them in their proper place which is usually on a shelf until tenderness, loving support and care are what’s actually called for! The ‘trick’ (or challenge) lies in the word “actual“. An important life skill is to learn when such emotions and their representative feelings are IN FACT what’s best in the situation. Then – and only then ought we haul them off the shelf and give free rein.
That’s not to say we can’t empathize or feel with another; what it doesn’t mean is that we let empathy cloud our good judgment and pull us from our appointed tasks.
2. We make excuses and let them ride along with emotion. Not all the time mind you – but often enough to derail us from reaching desired outcomes. Excuses are convenient ways of explaining why we don’t accomplish. Even when what we offer as a reason for lack of accomplishment is reality – it’s still an excuse. That is – if we choose to allow it to be that – an excuse. And once an excuse works for us – with others as well as ourselves; we’ve planted the seed for detour after detour – after detour!
Life will throw us curves – there’s no doubt about that. And each curve will have it’s accompanying emotional roller coaster. A curve can be an excellent reason to excuse our stepping off the path to purpose. In fact, we can create major drama out of minor curves and live a life filled with one emotional upheaval and excuse after another. Before we realize it; we’ve failed to enter the process of prioritizing in order to reach the purpose for which we began the journey in the first place!
We’re stepping into a new year. One filled with unlimited potential and possibilities. We leave behind successes and probably a few failed propositions as well. We have made right choices and a few wrong ones too. Let me encourage us all to ‘resolve’ the following:
1. Let the emotion of exhilaration emanating from the prospect of a future bright with positive outcomes fuel 2015. From beginning to end!
2. When drama comes (and it will), let it play out without engaging it as a excuse for attempting to drive on empty. Or not drive at all!
3. Then define – or redefine your purpose (your destiny-design). Put to paper the processes you’ll engage in to make it happen.
4. Finally, prioritize, prioritize – prioritize. Be flexible without losing your steel-plated resolve. And arrive at this time next year having never varied from your appointed path!
Linda S. Fitzgerald, Visionary Partner
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