"I Need A Break!" ~ Women and Micro-Business

I NEED A BREAK!

That was me a few weeks ago announcing to all within earshot that I needed time off. I need a break 08 12 2015Although all caps indicated I was screaming – the scream was internal. My heart, mind and soul screamed the need while I maintained a calm voice and cool exterior.

One of the aspects of being a woman who owns or partners in a micro-business – especially those who are solo-entrepreneurs, is the difficulty we find in taking time off. Time that means no one is working our business while we rest and relax in some exotic location. Or just a week in a nearby hotel in order to catch up reading a stack of books on our “to-read” list!

Why do we find it so tough to walk away from our passionate pursuit? I’m sure some of it is sales we might miss. Or new prospects who walk when we don’t readily respond to an urgent inquiry. Perhaps it’s the need to push the new Facebook business page button that gives us kudos for responding quickly to new posts. After all, that notification tells the world we are jenny-on-the-spot and can be counted on to tend to the needs of others in timely fashion!

Whatever it is that holds us back from a change of scenery, not to mention focus – is not a good thing. All work and no play – well you know the old saying! We become dull of senses and our creativity wanes as the desire to run from daily chores ramps up!

My desire to run from the routine has waned since announcing it to everyone who would listen; yet I know it will return until I give it full sway in my life.

For me, it’s the tug and pull of “run away” vs “stay and do” that creates a tension almost as stressful as the thought of leaving daily chores behind without someone at the helm to manage them on my behalf! One of my particular challenges is putting together the tasks involved in walking away. The thought of getting us ready is enough to say – “oh well, I’m not sure time away is worth the hassle!

So why is it important for women in micro-business to step away on a regular basis? And what will it take for us to do so?

1. Restore passion and purpose ~ It doesn’t matter how passionate we are about what we do in the marketplace; it will wane if we don’t change our focus on a regular basis and pursue other life passions.

None of us are passionate about only one thing. Our business pursuit is one passion (or at least we hope so) while a passion for reading, walking the beach, seeing favorite films or hiking a favorite spot may be ‘sweet spots’ for us as well. I even find a passion for clearing and cleaning when the chaos of too much paper clutters room after room at home.

When we don’t walk from one passion to pursue another, we become stale, tired and often a bit ‘pesky’ in our dealings with self and others. Furthermore, the passion we have for our business pursuits may tank as well.

And that’s never a good thing!Reconnecting With Me

2. Reconnect with our deeper selves ~ Most of us don’t often delve into our deeper selves – at least when we’re so laser-focused on what we do in the marketplace. The passion that drove us into micro-business occupies much of the space we call “deeper self”. When that happens, the other aspects of who we are are take a back seat and may seem to vanish altogether.

If we’re believing women, then our prayer life may suffer and we become brittle, lacking the compassion that normally flows from deep reservoirs within our soul. We know that is happening when we lose control more easily; snap at loved ones and close friends with whom we are normally lovingly kind, and even resent the daily tasks that keep our businesses moving forward on the path we want for them.

3. Restore, rejuvenate and renew ~ Those of us whose businesses require a great deal of creativity on a daily basis are most prone to the ‘brittle and break‘ syndrome. I know I stand staring at the editor screen with nothing but a blank mind that can’t conjure up a blog title – let alone an entire article!

This piece is a perfect example.  I stood blankly staring at the Word Press white space and wondered what in the world I could possibly say that would have meat and meaning for another soul! It took walking to the coffee pot and a moment gazing out the kitchen window to get the glimpse of an idea that resulted in this post. But when I’m near the “brittle and break” point, I labor rather than let the words flow from the keyboard with considerable ease.

And I mentally resent the requirement to have a post in the que although one of my passions is writing.  It feels like a put-upon rather than a privilege. . .

Let me say this. Our businesses will not suffer when we take time away. In fact, just the opposite will happen. Yes, we may miss a sale (unless we do some “when we’re away” planning which is fodder for another post); but it will come back if it’s truly meant to be.

What will happen is we’ll return to our first passion with the same passion with which we started. Think about that one. Recall the passion you had when you opened ‘shop’ – the excitement and exhilaration. Time away clears mental, emotional and physical clutter as it restores, rejuvenates and renews. Connecting with our deeper self opens avenues of creativity we never knew we had. And reconnecting with our life purpose can only come when we’re free of the weariness that daily noses-to-the-grindstone bring to everyone’s life.

Especially when we don’t give into the screaming meemy, “I NEED A BREAK”, that cries out to anyone and everyone who will listen!

If that’s the silent cry in your soul; take a risk. Walk away and discover that what you thought was risky has no negative impact at all. In fact, it is the best choice you can make, on a regular basis, to remain in love with the passionate purpose to which you are called!

Warmly,

Linda

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Linda S. Fitzgerald

I have a fiery passion to see women become all they are designed to be - personally and professionally. I write, teach, mentor and coach with that passion in mind. As an author and prolific blogger, I reach out to women in all walks of life, especially women of faith to empower and equip them for greatness.

6 Comments

  1. Jana Denninger on August 13, 2015 at 4:21 pm

    Excellent post, Linda…as you know, I can relate! And I’ve been sitting in front of that blank screen too here today at the rehab facility, praying for divine inspiration for tomorrow’s post…and I know it will come! I will be preparing myself for back-up so you have that time away!

  2. Julie Gorges on August 14, 2015 at 12:47 pm

    Right on Linda! On average, Americans only use up half of their vacation days. How awful! We need to take some lessons from Europe where every country has at least four work weeks of paid vacation. As you pointed out, we are passionate about our businesses, but we all need a break from real life. Just got back from visiting Sequoia and Yosemite – I’m not proud to admit this is the first vacation I’ve taken in four years. But you are so right. I came back invigorated and renewed. The time away energized and inspired me and in the long run will help my freelance writing business. Great article!

  3. Marquita Herald on August 14, 2015 at 12:57 pm

    Couldn’t agree more with you Linda, and yet I am guilty as sin about not taking time off. I’m pretty good on a daily basis of knowing when I need a break and have no problem taking an afternoon to myself or doing whatever I need to do clear my mind. But it has been 5 years since I took an actual vacation of more than 2 days, and mostly I work 7 days a week. The 4th quarter of this year is shaping up to be extremely busy – all good things – but I have made 2 commitments to myself. 1) To take several days off to rest before things get crazy, and 2) to take a month off next spring and I WILL keep those promises to myself.

  4. Sue Kearney (@MagnoliasWest) on August 14, 2015 at 5:03 pm

    Great post, and so important for me as I pack more and more boxes and look at a bit of a break from my biz to get this move done.

    Thanks!
    Sue

  5. Suzie Cheel on August 14, 2015 at 8:17 pm

    Love this Linda- I did that most of last weekend and then I want more 🙂 I relate- I usually get distracted on facebook or the like and then the day can vanish. There is a fine line- Like what you wrote here: What will happen is we’ll return to our first passion with the same passion with which we started. Think about that one – I know that feeling- I will do more of that xx

  6. Yvonne A Jones on August 15, 2015 at 9:07 pm

    This is so spot-on, Linda. I have a Virtual Assistant who is ready and willing to assist me, and yet I spend so much time in front of my computer. Today I’ve only taken short breaks, but wait! I did take some time to get a manicure and pedicure. It’s now 9:00 pm on Saturday night and I’m still working.

    I love what you said: “It doesn’t matter how passionate we are about what we do in the marketplace; it will wane if we don’t change our focus on a regular basis and pursue other life passions. ” It’s not enough to do other things. It’s important to include things that rejuvenate the mind and body. I’m somewhat ashamed to say that I now live on a beautiful island since March and have not been to the beach since I returned here. Definitely on my ‘to do’ in the next month list.

    Excellent reminders. Thank you.

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