I’m so glad you’ve chosen to join me on this exciting journey to “Becoming a Woman of B.O.L.D. Confidence”!
Three weeks ago, as I launched this new series, I began by sharing some extremely personal insights from my past. I did so with the intent to let you know where I’ve been on my life’s journey and how learning to build my own confidence level has played an integral part of my current success as a woman in micro-business.
Last week’s topic dealt with the importance of identifying lies we’ve told ourselves… or, for that matter, what others told us about ourselves that were untrue, but we believed them anyway. Those lies then may have become internalized and ultimately turned into misbeliefs…potentially ingrained into our psyche.
I’m wondering if you took my suggestion and took some quiet time to think about those “lies”. If you’ve not yet done that critical exercise, I encourage you to carve out some “me time” soon. Now, I need to warn you…as you begin to think back…I mean really delve into your innermost remembrance when words were spoken over or to you that were hurtful, demeaning, just plain wrong…you might want to have a box of tissues handy!
Now, you might ask, “Jana, why in the world should I do something that would be painful?” I challenge you with this statement…something that I’ve learned well over my life…
There is no growth without some pain!
Once you’ve done that mental exercise…perhaps cried a few tears …begin to release forgiveness to that person who spoke negatively about you…lies that you are now free from! Far too women have believed they are “less than”, “won’t be able to make it on their own”, and so on. You can “insert here” your own story.
What I’ve learned over the years, especially in my professional business life, is that some women (because they lack self-worth) tend to put others down as it lifts them up (at least in their own eyes). I’ve seen this repeated over and over and I would bet you could think of several instances where this same scenario has played out before you as well.
The key to diffusing that situation when it “rears its ugly head”? Simply ignore the person and don’t play into their drama…and even more so, don’t take offense. It’s one of those very tough “learning experiences” that, when you recognize it for what it is…the person’s attempt to feel better about themselves by tearing another down…you can walk away free!
So let me bring this “life lesson” back around to why the need to build self-confidence…with BOLDness!
You’ve more than likely heard this quote attributed to Henry Ford, but it bears repeating, “If you think can or can’t, you’re right”! It all comes down to BELIEF in yourself. Does that take time and practice, indeed!!!
Stay tuned for the next step in our journey to developing B.O.L.D. Confidence, as I share specific ways to implement this into your DAILY life.