Phrase sound familiar? Something uttered by old Scrooge in Dickens “A Christmas Carol“; it’s indicative of the attitude of those who find the Christmas holidays anything but the joyful celebration they are designed to be.
However, that’s not the reason I titled today’s “Tuesday Dose” in this manner. I did so because about this moment in time at the close of any year; I get irritably tired of the emphasis on “goal-setting”. Same is true for all the posts about “new year’s resolutions”. We all know how well that goes! And the same is often the case for goal setting ad nausea!
Goal-setting at anytime of the year is a good thing. But too much of a “good thing” is too much – regardless of how good it is! TWEETABLE
Let me suggest we consider the following when we’re setting forth resolutions and/or goals for the coming year:
1. How much value did I add to the lives of the folks in my community this past year? If uncertain – ask. Do a survey and find out if the value you think you added to their lives is how they perceive it as well. What you learn will go a long way toward making certain we add value in the new year!
2. Did I grow personally and spiritually this past year? Notice I didn’t include “professionally”. If we are growing personally – most especially spiritually; we’re growing professionally. Focus more on these 2 areas of growth and you’ll be pleasantly surprised at how much different – and better, your professional life!
3. Did I add new relationships to my personal-professional life this past year? If not, then perhaps I need to focus more on this aspect of potential success in the coming year. Relationships – personal and otherwise are the juice of our success.
3a. The source of our success is the quality of the relationships I have and are making in my life. So ask if those relationships have grown in depth, richness and quality over the past 12 months? Ask the folks in those relationships with you if you’re unsure. Find out what they value. I bet the reason they have grown (assuming they have), is that each of you share same or similar values. And you learn from each other as you deepen the quality of the relationship!
4. Are you asking the right questions? Better still, let me say it this way: “am I asking the right questions?” Any woman who is successful in life – meaning she’s achieving a level of life satisfaction she defines for herself; is so because she asks the right questions at some points in her life. First (and foremost) she asks them of herself. Gaining a deeper level of self-awareness is critical to our success. Second, she asks them of those most important in her life. Not just family and close friends; but those with whom she’s in ongoing relationships for professional reasons as well.
5. And finally (but not exhaustively), did I take risks in the past 12 months? Did I let others experience my vulnerability? Or did I continue to hide behind the masks I wear to get through life without anyone realizing what lies behind them? Did I live up to the promises I made to myself, my family, friends and all with whom I’m in relationship? If not, where did I fall short?
Unsure? When in doubt – ask. Always ask. It’s frightening to ask for we may not like some or all the answers we receive. And yet to fail to ask is to fall short of the marks we set for ourselves; while deluding ourselves into thinking we have achieved them.
So these are the items I’d put on my “goal-setting” list. Not your usual. Not even those which would tickle the fancy of the realistic and practical. But nonetheless, that which is as critically important to making 2016 our best year yet.
Perhaps the most critically important. Only you can determine if that is true – or not!
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